When Dummy meets Crazy...and I don't feel sorry for either

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Look at this picture and tell me what's the first thing that comes to mind...I bet my brothas are saying damn dude got caught up...and I bet my sistas are saying...and she's not even cute!!!...All of this among other things. This sounds like a some lifetime movie. Since, I can't quite pinpoint which one, I'm going to name it...when Dummy Meets Crazy.

As you all know, Former 36 year old NFL MVP and Tennessee Titans QB Steve McNair was killed by his 20 year old girlfriend Crazy Bitch...I meant Sahel Kazemi. Apparently she was distraught that she wasn't the only other woman and that Steve wasn't paying her bills because of course the No.2 (maybe No. 3 but she wanted to be No. 1) woman is entitled to get her bills paid. Kazemi had told friends "[her] life was a ball of shit" and that she "wanted to end it."

So she did...and his too. Two shots to the dome and two to the chest while he was sleeping...in his condo. And because her life was so doomed (those credit repair agencies really need to step up their advertising in Nashville) she went out Juliet style and shot herself too so she could fall into his lap. Except in the story, Romeo isn't married.

OK she was nuts...and yes ladies she wasn't even cute. So he cheated on his wife (a former nurse who used to treat his injuries, sound like Waiting to Exhale?) with four kids (two that aren't hers) for an average crazy chick who couldn't even legally get drunk. She's clearly Crazy but he's clearly a Dummy. This post clearly shows I have no sympathy for him. I usually don't judge cheaters for the morality of their actions except for the fact that if they cheat they should have the guts to leave their partner but isn't this the ultimate punishment? Til death do us part and if you part on the sly, death will do you....

Well not usually...while still terrible, you are an absolute fool to cheat on your wife with an immature 20 year old waitress. He bought her an escalade she clearly couldn't pay for and spent so much time with her that she became delusional. I can tell you that he probably knew she was crazy but he was caught up and did the dumbest thing possible...you can't just up and leave a crazy bitch! You have to get a crazy bitch to leave you. Oh, and you definitely don't leave a crazy woman for another woman and then go to sleep around her? Lorena Bobbit ring a bell? He should have been sleep with a helmet and a bullet proof vest...but again he probably knew all this and he was doomed...he cheated on his wife and had no real way to get out without blowing up his spot.

One thing to take from this is that when you do bad things you have no idea what the consequences will be. Most people have no problem doing something wrong if they think they won't get caught or can accept the consequences that usually goes along with it. In my opinion it's a flawed logic. While we like to label things bad and really bad and absolutely horrible..they all get put in one group of things you just should not do. Deceptive wrongdoing is like trying to drive down a road you think you know with the lights off. One wrong turn could lead to a crash and you may run off the road at any time. After awhile you have no idea where you are. In this case, he jumped in the Escalade turned off the lights and hoped nobody would find him....and he even let the crazy bitch drive....straight into a tree.

Ethan Frome style.

"It was mediocre. I give it a D."

As I headed to the Nationals baseball game on friday night, me and my boy Ralph were having one of our usual "in-depth" conversations about the black community and how it can move forward. So during our convo, Ralph mentions that there was a screening of "Black in America 2" at Howard a couple nights ago and a panel had a discussion after the viewing. Now I also have issues with the premise of black in america being a 4 hour documentary but that may be for another blog at another time. Anyway, he also mentioned there was an article about the event in Howard's student newspaper "Hilltop". So he forwarded me the article.

As I skimmed through the article there was one quote that truly stood out to me. A lot of the panels at the events were older people (over 30) and there were many younger people in the crowd asking questions about the divide between the older generation and young generation's views on how to move Black America forward in the future. But the quote about what a young woamn in the audience thought of the documentary. She said,"It was mediocre. I give it a D."

Now the first thing that came to my mind when I first read it was I must have misread the quote. So i scanned back and read it again and sure enough, that's was what she said. Now me and Ralph have been having arguments on what the steps we need to take to make the African-American experience as better in this country and we talked about the justice system, politics, education and family structure just to name a few. But after reading that quote, I realize that if we are teaching our young people that a D grade is mediocre, we are already failing. If D is mediocre, Is C good? Is B excellent? Is A not even attainable?

I think we already need to have a conversation on what our standards of excellence will be as African-Americans. Will we ask of our children the least amount and except to be give Affirmative Action because of years past? Are we just have to get a high school diploma or GED and feel like its owned to us to get a job? Going to college and doing well in school was next a question in my house. My parents expected excellence in everything I did and did not alway me to settle for less then that. Even though I may have not always achieved the best because I tried hard I was always able to be better than "mediocre".

Maybe this young woman didn't really know what mediocre meant or misspoke to the interviewer but if we allow mediocre to be our benchmark, we are bound to fail for a long time.